08 NovNo meetings for the rest of the year

Dearest Femme Family folks and allies,

I’m writing to let you know that after the wonderful success of the Femme 2010 Conference this summer, we are all a little postpartum and the main organizers of the Femme Family are taking a break through the rest of 2010. We believe that taking time for self-care is part of caring for our communities, and so we’re taking some time to regroup. 20Femme is doing so great for herself!

Note, NYC Femme Family folks do not need to stop meeting, playing or planning the revolution. Folks can continue to use the listserv [http://groups.google.com/group/femme-family] and organize themselves and events under our collective name – just check with a titled Madam if none is involved. We’ll keep sending out info about out allies events and cranking away loving each other behind the scenes.

Monthly informal Love-our-Ladyfriends potlucks will continue to occur and you can email info@femmefamily.com to get info. Bevin is still putting on her monthly Rebel Cupcake and has the new Art and Soul party, and Damien is starting A Month of Sundays: Hot Pink Cabaret.

We’ll be in touch to vision and meet again in early 2011. For now, I will say Happy 20Femme. It’s been a thick, full, wild year. Thank you for each of your amazing parts in it.

D’Luxe | femmetech.org

17 SepFall Updates & October Events

Whoo! After Femme2010, we are recovering slowly, but about to blast back into action with a slew of meetings, events, reading groups, discussions and parties this fall!


Meeting are open to queer femme and femme-questioning people of all genders, makes and models in the NYC area who are interested in organizing and building community.

Sept 26, 7p @ Outpost – email info@femmefamily.com to confirm or for further details.
Oct 11 – 7p @ Hart Collective before our first Roundtable Dinner [see below]
Oct 24, 7p @ Re/Dress


Roundtable Dinner
Mon Oct 11, 8p SHARP  @ Hart Collective [97 Brooklyn Ave, Apt 2L - Nostrand A/C, between Dean and Bergen]:  Come eat with us and participate in a gently-guided discussion on femme artists/activists in action. We’re pleased that the fabulous Ulrika Dahl will be joining us this evenings. This event is closed to include all queer femme/femme-questioning folks, only.

Zine #2: Femme/Art – Deadline Oct 15
The first zine was so awesome we keep wanting to do a second – so we decided to make it an annual thing. This zine collects writing on art makers and theories, femmes in art and art by femmes.


Transformative Justice Study Group Meeting #3
Sun Oct 3, 4-6pm – Community Film Screening & Discussion!
188 Underhill Ave #2, Brooklyn, NY (B/Q to 7th Ave & 2,3 to Grand Army Plaza), Map: http://tinyurl.com/2dw7xbd
Bring a dish to share if you can; we’ll be watching “Breaking the Pipeline”, listening to a story from stopviolenceeveryday.org, and discussing a selection from The Revolution Starts At Home [link to download]; We’ll be discussing “Transforming communities: community-based responses to partner abuse by Vanessa Huang.

Rebel Cupcake
October 14 & Nov 11, Thursdays, 10p-2a, @ Sugarland, 221 N. 9th St, Brooklyn. A flamboyant queer dance party for all shapes & flavors. Burlesque, drag, cabaret at 11pm. DJ Shomi Noise spins amazing dance music! www.queerfatfemme.com/rebel-cupcake

13 JulFemme2010: No Restrictions is in 40 days!

This is so exciting. FEMME2010: No Restrictions [aka the Femme Conference] is in Oakland in 40 days! Things to know:

  • If you want to register, please do it NOW for the low cost of $75 because the price goes up to $95 on the 19th.
  • If you want to get hundreds of femmes to check your organization out, why not advertise in the program? Rates start at $50 and a whole frickin page ad is only $120. We’ll have one…
  • Oh! And the conference has a blog! So check it out and comment – our voices are *all* crucial!

And – because the Femme Family is hustling so many of us out to beautiful Oakland for the event, we’re throwing one more fun[d]raiser party on July 23: SPEAKEASY OF FEMME! Check back or find us on evil ol facebook for party details…



12 JunFEMME PRIDE WEEK! Potluck 6/15. Cabaret 6/17. BDSM party 6/18, Dance & Auction 6/20!

As Femme Pride week approaches, the NYC Femme Family is excited to announce four events designed to celebrate our fabulosity and build community. We welcome queer femmes of all makes, models and genders to our events, and many are open to allies and friends, too. We hope that however you celebrate Pride this year, that your life and work for liberation give back to you!

Tues June 15, 7:30 – 9:30pm, 713 Classon Ave, Apt 206, Brooklyn, $free/bring a dish to share
Kick off Femme Pride Week with a femme community dinner, at which we will utilize the potluck to honor our deep lez ancestry and queer activist present. Femme + femme-questioning only, please.

Thurs June 17, 10p-2a. Sugarland [221 N 9th St.], Brooklyn, $5
Co-Head Madam Bevin Branlandingham brings another installation of the Rebel Cupcake Cabaret! The theme is Queer Root, and it features performances by Rosie Lugosie, SirMamSir and the Missus, Lola Dean, and Damien Luxe. All femmes + queer allies are welcome.

Fri June 18. Paddles [250 W 26th St.], NYC 10:30p – 2:30. $10.
Orphanage play party!! SWITCH, New York City’s monthly genderqueer/women/trans/define it for yourself BDSM party, takes you into the dingy world of the wayward, Daddy Warbucks, Cruella DeVille and all those Nuns who’d grown tired of brats run amok. All queer genders welcome. Hostessed by Damien Luxe/Home for the Wayward.

Sat June 19.
It’s Juneteenth! It’s the Mermaid Parade!! It’s co-head Madam Damien Luxe’s 31st birthday!!!

Sun June 20: 8p – 12a. Stonewall Inn [53 Christopher St,] NYC. $5-$10.
NYC Femme Family is excited to invite you to our second annual pride party!  This year’s party has a very special theme: PINUP, and it’s co-sponsored by Shameless Photography, Bklyn Boihood, and I Heart Brooklyn Girls.  In addition to dancing, drinks, and general revelry, we’re holding a date & service auction you won’t want to miss. Auction info is available on our blog: http://www.femmefamily.com/wp/2010/06/pinuppride_20femme/
All femmes + queer allies are welcome.

Further Along:
Femme2010 – taking place August 20-22 in Oakland, CA. femmecollective.com
Speaking of Femme V: TBA in July

We can’t wait to see you!

ps: Join our e-mail list:  Femme Family <femme-family+owner@googlegroups.com>

01 JunPinup Pride Party & Date Auction! 20Femme!

NYC Femme Family is excited to invite you to our second annual pride party!  This year’s party has a very special theme: PINUP, and it’s co-sponsored by Shameless Photography, Bklyn Boihood, and I Heart Brooklyn Girls.  In addition to dancing, drinks, and general revelry, we’re holding a date & service auction you won’t want to miss.

The details:

DATE: June 20th, 2010
TIME: Doors at 8pm
PLACE: Stonewall Inn, 53 Christopher St, NYC
COVER: Sliding scale, $5-10, no one turned away for lack of funds

Here’s a preview of the auction.  Proceeds go towards helping members of Femme Family attend the Femme Conference in San Francisco this fall!

Recently Added Items!

Auction Item: DAMIEN
Vehicle Date in NYC!
In the vehicle of YOUR CHOOSING!! (motorcycle, van, maybe bicycle?)

Auction Item: Hairstyling by BRYN!

Auction Item: Hana is your sexy personal chef for a meal at your home. She’ll wear lingerie & cook for you and a friend or a sweetie!

Auction Item: Customized angry lawyer letter
Offered by: Bevin
Value: 1 hour at $300


Auction Item: Date/Cupcake tour of the city
Offered by: Bevin
Value: There is no true monetary value for a date with Bevin

Auction Item: 1.5 hour website class
Offered by: Damien — http://www.heelsonwheelsdesign.com/pricing.html
Value: $200 + the invaluable assistance of getting your project off the ground

Auction Item: 1-hour “Quick & Dirty Burlesque Lesson”
Offered by: Lola Dean
Value: $75

Lola Dean

Auction Item: 1-2 hours House Boy Service
Offered by: Nogga
Value: $80

Auction Item: Sexy Photo Shoot
Offered by: Quito
Value: $300

Auction Item: Kinky Play Date
Offered by: Sarah Jenny
Value: 2 hours at $600

Sarah Jenny

Auction Item: Private ballet class and evening of ballet at American Ballet Theatre or the Met
Offered by: Yve
Value: $200-$350

Auction Item: 3-hour Personal Shopping Service
Offered by: Taueret
Value: $100


13 MarSpeaking of Femme is on Tuesday!!


Tuesday, March 16, 2010 * NY, NY
Speaking of Femme!
The Femme Family’s spoken word event [www.femmefamily.com]
7-9 PM * $5 suggested donation
Bluestockings Bookstore: 172 Allen St., NY NY

New York’s Femme Family – a social and activist collaboration of local queer femmes – brings you Speaking of Femme, a literary event celebrating the queer femme voice. Come to read, to hear what femmes have to say, to ally, to challenge your ideas of femininity, to laugh and cry with us. FemmeFamily membership is open to self-identified femmes of all genders, and our events are for all. femmefamily.com

Featured Performers:
Emcee Hadassah D’Luxe, a multimedia artist and performer [axondluxe.com]
FemmeCee Bevin Branlandingham, host of FemmeCast: The Queer Fat Femme Podcast Guide to Life [www.queerfatfemme.com]
AfroTitty! Talking about Fat Camp and Fat Femme Competition
Sophie Spinelle, Proprietess of Shamless Photography [shamelessphoto.com]
Bridget Sweetz, Hot Femme Slam Poet [www.sweetin.net]
More TBA + Open Mic!

We’ll have our fresh reprint of the Femme Family Femme: Coming Out zine available for $8 through Bluestockings (or $6 for an online version through paypal@femmefamily.com). Open Mic available to all self-identified Femmes throughout the evening.

Bluestockings’ performance space is wheelchair accessible, the restroom is not even fat friendly.

08 MarFemme Family Update March 8th

Dear Femme Family!

Just a quick note to remind y’all about a couple of items:

Tonight! 3/8! Book Club! Open to all! Discussing Zoe Whittall’s Bottle Rocket Hearts. Such a great book about so many things: Polyamory, coming out as queer, coming out as Femme, AIDS, hate crimes, feminism, Montreal, Canadian politics… 7:15pm at the Silver Spurs Diner on Houston & Laguardia in Manhattan.

MADAM MEETING! Open to self-identified Femmes. 9pm right after book club.

Next week! March 16, 7-9pm at Bluestockings. Open Mic to all self-identified Femmes. If you want to be a featured reader let us know!


August 20-22, Oakland, CA! The call for submissions for workshops, films, performances, etc… is up at www.femmecollective.com We have a mighty NYC contingency going, join us!


We’re updating our events and goings on there, so if you ever wonder what we’re up to, check it out! www.femmefamily.com


We’re having a bear of a time trying to do a cheap reprint of the FF Zine #1. If you have access to cheap copies (or know a good online cheap copying service or something, even in the suburbs) please let us know!

Have a manic only in the good ways Monday, y’all!!


Co-head Madam!

05 MarFemme2010: Call for Workshops, Papers, Panels, Films, Performance and Visual Art

Femme2010: No Restrictions

Oakland Marriott City Center
1001 Broadway
Oakland, California 94607
August 20th – 22nd, 2010

Femme2010: No Restrictions is a multi-threaded conference and forum for those who think about, talk about, and create Femme as a queer gender and identity.

Following our Femme2006 & 2008 conferences in San Francisco & Chicago, where hundreds of femmes and allies gathered for workshops, panels, films, visual art galleries and performances, we again invite community members, artists, academics, homemakers, geeks, techies, activists, femmes of all kinds, and their allies to continue the conversation by participating in Femme 2010 as presenters and participants.

We are invested in having Femme2010 continue to reflect the diversity and complexity of femme gender, identity and contributions. We hope for this conference to be a community building event, as well as an exploration and celebration of what it means to build and live queer femme identities.

Submissions of all kinds are welcome, particularly submissions by femmes. We encourage proposals by and for people of color, working-class people, fat folks, elders, youth and people with disabilities. We encourage submissions that work outside and alongside identity and gender, as well as those reflecting directly upon identity and gender. Femme2010 will continue the community dialogue from Femme2006 & 08. In particular, we hope that the intersections of femme with race, region, class, access, ability, privilege, and marginalization will be talked about, given space, meditated upon, constructed, and deconstructed. Finally, we also encourage submissions based on this year’s theme: No Restrictions.

We began this conference in 2006 out of a desire to see femme explored and discussed from a variety of perspectives. We wanted a conference that held the complexities of Queer Femme as its central focus, while building community. We feel we accomplished that in 2006 & 2008 and in 2010, we want to continue to build femme community and bridges, supporting each other across borders and differences.

We hope to draw participants from across disciplinary, medium, and social boundaries. We encourage submissions from anyone interested, regardless of gender or sexual identity. We do ask that you read our mission statement before submitting.

We are soliciting contributions from anyone interested, including (but not limited to):

> workshops
> panel presentations
> performances
> research presentations
> skill shares
> activist & organizational topics
> visual art
> video or film

Submission deadline is April 15, 2010.

Please submit your proposal through the following links, located at www.femmecollective.com:

Program Submission click here

Performance Submission click here

Film Submission click here

**Please note that the more information we have on your submission, the more likely we will be able to accept your submission and include it in the conference schedule.

To learn more about us, our mission and to contact us with any questions, comments or concerns, please find us at our website: http://www.femmecollective.com

04 FebFemme Family Update from Bevin

Dear Femme Family!

We have some amazing events and joy to bring unto you this mid-winter!

Thurs Feb 4th, 7pm-2am Emotional Relay, local queer femme photographer/Femme Family Zine editor Allison Picard’s art show & dance party! DJ Designer Imposter & performance by Novice Theory. 70 N 6th St Loft @Public Assembly, Brooklyn http://www.facebook.com/bevin?ref=name#!/event.php?eid=263349636105&ref=ts

Sun Feb 7th 8pm–Cupcake Cabaret: Celebrating the Radical Act of Self Love, 45 Berry St, BK with Vagina Jenkins: Queer Fat Femme Southern Burlesque, from Atlanta, GA;
Glenn Marla, Lorelei Lee, Sequinette, Bevin Branlandingham. http://www.facebook.com/bevin?ref=name#!/event.php?eid=243696383554&ref=mf

Tues March 2, 7:15pm, Femme Book Club. Discussing Zoe Whittall’s Bottlerocket Hearts. Silver Spurs Diner, corner of Houston and Laguardia.

Tues March 16, 7-9pm, Speaking of Femme! Our quarterly(ish) femme reading series. Get in touch if you want to be a featured reader!

AND DON’T FORGET! Zine contributions for the second Femme Family Zine are due March 1 Our next zine is on the theme of Art – Femmes who make art, critique art, and/or live art.Send questions or submissions to info@femmefamily.com!

To order a copy of our first zine online, email paypal@femmefamily.com, or just go to PayPal.com and donate $8 or more for hardcopy, or $6 or more for a digital copy, to paypal@femmefamily.com. Be sure to include your address if you want your copy mailed.


Co-Head Madam

20 JanDATE CHANGE! Next Femme Book Club: Bottle Rocket Hearts on March 8



followed by an organizer’s meeting @ Silver Spurs

After last night’s amazing discussion at Femme Book Club, we picked next month’s book.

Zoe Whittall’s Bottle Rocket Hearts.

She is a Femme from Toronto, who we adore.  And it is a Femme coming of age story! (We haven’t had a lot of that in Book Club.)

Again, totally try to get the book from an indie book seller.

Our meeting will be Tuesday, March 2 at 7:15 at the Silver Spurs diner on the corner of Houston & LaGuardia Pl in Manhattan.